Born In the year 1900, my Great grandmother Effie Johnson will always be “Big Momma” to our family! In the images above she’s sitting out in the pasture reflecting after church and preparing dinner in the other with three of her sons. Although she stood just under 5ft and barely 120lbs most of her life, her name represented her character and the respect held for her as a role model in every aspect of her 100 years on earth. I miss her dearly. Lately, there hasn’t been a moment throughout my days when something occurs that makes me long for the ability to go back in time to have a conversations with a family member who have transitioned. The next few weeks I will be honoring my ancestors by sharing the lessons and beautiful memories of my precious time with them.
I was told stories of how when I first began to crawl, I had a habbit of scooting around Big Momma’s kitchen floor pulling all her pots and pans from the cabinets and she would discipline me by lightly tapping my thick ‘lil thighs with her huge wooden spoon. Probably the reason I’ve never used one of those wooden spoons myself. There were also stories of how she helped bring me into the world by aiding my mother during delivery. Big Momma was the mid-wife to many folks of color during her time. When we visited her for family reunions during my childhood, she and I would sit out in the pasture among the animals to snap peas or work in the garden. She’d share stories while I listened with anticipation. She never spoke much about the challenges she faced in her life, but mainly about the importance of family and how she enjoyed raising her children, being a wife and taking care of people whether they were kin or not. Once she reached the ’90’s (her golden years), she talked to me about how happy and thankful she was to have lead a fulfilling life recalling her numerous blessings over the years. I didn’t quite understand the part about a “fulfilling” life because she never ventured from the small town of Wilmar other than a few visits to the closest hospital which was 7 miles in the next county. There was no need for her to go into town to buy much as she utilized the land and nature to provide everything they needed.
My childhood was filled with fun memories of her as well as some lessons I learned the hard way. She’d always warn my younger brother’s and I not to go out there where the barn was. One year during our visit, I was about 10 years old and had to see what was inside that old barn, not realizing my youngest brother who was only 5 at the time, had follwed me. After my investigation and disappointment of not finding anything other than bunches of hay, my brother and I found ourselves being chased by that mean ol’ bull. His short legs wouldn’t allow him to gain any speed, so as I went to grab him, we escaped the dangers of the bull but unfortunately I didn’t escape the barbed wire fence during our get-a-way. My scared knee’s still bare a reminder of that day which my brother’s and I laugh about all the time. My fondess memory of times with Big Momma was being in the kitchen preparing suppa (she still used the big wooden spoon, but only for stirring now). She sang these old negro spirituals that were passed down to my mother who Big Momma helped raise and have always stayed with me which I’ve shared with my children and grandchildren while preparing meals during the holidays. My favorite is called “Great Change in Me”, here’s a snippet!
“There is a great change in me, great change in me. I am so happy and I am so free. Since Jesus brought me out of the darkness, into this marvelous light and oh oh oh there’s a great change in me”!
I learned that these songs were Big Momma’s way of lifting not only her spirits, but also the family in times of struggle. She had spent her life as a faithful servant to the Lord and knew His devine power. This was her way of letting us know that God is always with us. I love you Big Momma! I am thankful for the time I spent with you and I pray I make you proud, for I now know that all your sacrifice and the struggles you’ve endured were so that I could be here today and continue moving forward!
So heart touching story you and grandma’s lovely affection 👌🏼🌹🙏🏼
My grandma also when we small so much advices, sleeping
Time story tell, cannot forget that days 👍♥️ now we also the same
Love giving our grandchildren 🙏🏼🌹 you so lovely and grace wishes🙏🏼🌹♥️
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Thank you so much, it is a blessing that my great grandmother was here for so many years. My time with her was so precious indeed. Blessings to you my dear.
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You dear , this is so admiring that great grand maa with you small time and you
Already got all the Blessings , so awesome and rare children only can get luck
Like you dear 👍🌹🙏🏼 ❤️ Grace wishes you and your lovely family 👏 God Bless 🙏🏼
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Blessing to you as well. I’m so happy to be able to pass these stories and traditions down to my grandchildren.
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Yes, sure 👍♥️🌹you are such gorgeous and powerful Grandmaa 🌹👍🙏🏼 Best Wishes 👏🌹
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Thanks, you as well.
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What a beautiful tribute and memorial for your Big Momma Tammy. 🤗 I think we all had one in our family and can recall some poignant memories from being around them. Songs were a thing of cultural traditions, because songs like the ones your Big Momma sung were empowering and encouraging them/us to forge ahead with whatever task that lay before them. Oh what amazing, divine lessons of perseverance, hope, joy, love, and a peace that surpasses all understanding.
Thanks for sharing your cherished memories QT! What a warm and cozy read for this morning. ☕Have a FANtabulous day my friend. 🌞💖🌟
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That’s why I always want to reach out and hug you Kym nor can I hold back the tears when I read your comments. You express perfectly what it is I try to convey, but it’s such a struggle for me now. I truly appreciate you! Enjoy your day and the week ahead Queen.
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Oh girlfriend, you brought back some heart-stopping moments when I read your post. I can truly connect and we share (albeit a different time) very significant and life-learning memories. 🙏🏼 I wouldn’t trade those days for anything in the world. Sending cyber hugs to you my dear friend! 🤗🤗🤗 I appreciate you girl. 💖 Keep forging ahead, just as your Big Momma did! 🏃🏽♀️ She’s lives within you. Carry on! 👸🏽👑💃🏽
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Thank you so much, I’ll need them hugs for the week ahead, lol. I start my training for this mental health advocate job & have been learning how to use “google classroom” to prepare.
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You go, girl! 🏃🏽♀️ You’re going to do a wonderful job Tammy! Stay focused and courageous. 💪🏽 While chartering on new territory, think about the unlimited opportunities this new journey can unfold! Whenever you feel challenged, ask yourself this question, “WWBMD”? (What Would Big Momma Do?) 🕵🏽♀️🤔👵🏽
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What a lovely tribute to your Big Momma. I can almost smell the food and hear the songs she creates through your loving recollections. And what a nice long life she’s lived and the timing is just amazing – got to witness the start of two new centuries! 💕
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Thanks Ab, I feel so fortunate, especially when I study history and learn of the hardships they experienced. Hope you all are well my friend.
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History is our best teacher. Thanks for sharing their stories with us, both the good and the hardships.
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Thanks Ab, I’m so pleased that you appreciate my truths & journey. 💞
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Thank you for sharing this wonderful story!
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I’m glad you enjoyed it, thanks for commenting. Enjoy your day dear.
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Same to you!
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Bless you and what a strong and soulful moving tribute, I spent time with my great grandmother on my mother’s side of the family and she had stories and strength that still blow my mind til this day, peace and respect to you always
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It’s such a wonderful gift for us who have those memories w/ our elders! Blessings to you as well King.
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Right on Soulful Queen
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Thanks for sharing some of your history!
I think it’s wonderful that songs were used as a source of strength and comfort during difficult times.
The power of music when combined with faith is truly amazing.
I hope that as I progress and journey through my life there will always be the opportunity for “a great change in me”.
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Aww, I’m so pleased to know how much you appreciate the post, thank you.
As you continue to grow during your journey, your spirit definitely reflects great change my dear 🙏♥️
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What a great sharing for this sacred time of Samhain, All Souls day, All Saints day and Dio de los Muertas. Thanks for sharing part of your history!
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Beautiful tribute. You have such wonderful and vivid memories.
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Thanks luv, all the pic help me in holding on to the memories ♥️. Hope you’ve been well!
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Very well thank you.
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Thanks for sharing your memories of your Big Momma. Blessed be our grandmothers ❤
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Yes indeed, I pray that I can uplift my family & others as she did. Thank you❣️
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Oh my gosh, I love your big Momma memories!
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Aww, that’s so sweet of you. Thanks my dear❣️
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What a blessing to have those memories. I look forward to hearing more memories
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Thank you! Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing about a few ancestors who have transitioned & were my best supporters.
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You do justice to Big Momma with your beautiful memories.
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Aww thanks so much, that means a lot😊
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Amen. “There is a great change in me, great change in me. I am so happy and I am so free. Since Jesus brought me out of the darkness, into this marvelous light and oh oh oh there’s a great change in me”! Thank you for sharing such wonderful memories–days I truly miss. Have a wonderful day/night and remain safe.
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You as well my dear, thank you.
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A beautiful tribute to an incredible woman ♡ One part that really stood out to me is how she had a fulfilling life even though she rarely left the small town of Wilmar, because she could live off the land instead of having to always go to the store. And besides that, her priority was her family, that’s what nurtured her soul. Goals!!!
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That is what stayed w/ me the most. I am so passionate about family. Thanks for reading ❣️
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Awe, such an amazing loving piece in honor of Big Momma. Thank you for sharing her beautiful story. 😉
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I’m so happy you enjoyed it. Thanks for the support ❣️
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Such a great woman. Reaching the golden age then looking back and being satisfied with the life you lived is… Well, words can’t even describe it well enough.
Lovely day💙
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Wonderful post – I could feel the love…and fear the spoon.
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Lol, that darn spoon gets me every time I see one. Thanks, I appreciate you!
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Love this post! You are blessed to have precious memories and that song brought to tears.
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Thanks so much, I appreciate it💟
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wow! Awesome memories you have with big mama! How wonderful! ❤
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Thanks, those moments with her were a blessing. She was 18 yrs old during the last pandemic. I wish I could talk to her now.
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This brings back old memories of me with my great grandma… I wish I could relive those days. I do miss her so much. This post was great!
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Thanks, I’m happy to know it resonates with you. My grandmother died when my mom was a child so I never met her, so I’m so thankful for Big Momma ♥️
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That was surely a heart touching story.
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Beautiful tribute to your great grandmother. 🤗
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Thanks so much, I appreciate you commenting 💟
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Aww. So precious. Lovely. Thanks for sharing.
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Que família linda 😍 Amo🤗
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My apologies, don’t know how to translate in comments.
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Don’t worry…I said what a beautiful family❣️
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Aww, thank you!
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Your memories honoring your great grandmother were clear enough for us eavesdroppers to see the heart she had for Jesus and the joy she found in living a life of gratitude. These posts sharing your memories of your family are a grand reminder of the value God has bestowed on all His children. Your writing is obviously from the heart.
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Wow, that means so much. Thank you. My post “The Blind Beautiful Faith of a Child” tells about my fist lesson on how to pray & have faith. It is through my children that He reached me & I’m so thankful to finally know Him. Now I also understand my great grandmother much better.💟
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That is simply lovely. I do believe in immortality: those gone live forever in the memories of others which in turn keep those gone alive.
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Yes, precisely how I feel. I appreciate your comment, thanks!
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You are an inspired and gifted story teller. Thank you.
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Thank you kindly, I appreciate your feedback my friend.
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