Confused by the title? Well, it’s pronounced exactly like it’s spelled but obviously not an actual word. You see, my mother has this thing where either she made up words or simply due to lack of education and not very efficient when it comes to reading, writing and spelling. “Bottom-sized-up-us” is one of many made up words she replaced for the actual word or phrase; simply meaning “upside down”. Yes, she still uses it today. However, for this post, I am referring to the state of the world with all the chaos and the lives of citizens actually being turned upside down.

Many of us have often heard the phrase, “the world is turned upside down”. It is the title of a popular ballad and used in various forms, yet it had become a term loosely used especially during these challenging times. Many may say things took a turn for the worse due to the pandemic. I personally don’t know of one person who wasn’t directly affected by the pandemic, myself included. Although it certainly impacted lives all over the world, people were struggling on many levels long before March of 2020. When I walk outside my door on any given day, be it for routine errands, conduct business at an establishment or sit at the local parks in an attempt to escape the madness even if only for a moment regardless of my location, people’s lives are drastically changed and often in such a way that is totally shocking and upsetting.

While talking to many people during my days, I’ve learned that many are struggling with the same issues. Although disheartening, I find comfort in knowing I am not alone. Over the last several months I’ve researched many of these issues and plan to write about them in detail eventually.

  1. Unaccounted Homeless Population: We see the tents set up around our cities, but what about those who have no other option but to live with family. In many instances multiple families under one roof. This causes a breakdown in families for several reasons, especially those with children. Single mothers in most cases don’t qualify for help because they’re not on the streets.
  2. Mother Nature at an Abundance: Between the storms, fires, earthquakes, tornadoes, etc. people are struggling to overcome these events that are seemingly becoming more destructive every year.
  3. Low Income/Affordable Housing: Is there really such a thing?
  4. Health Care: Even if you’re in a position to have great coverage, what about the integrity of the Physicians and clinics that we expect to be held to a higher standard? I personally have a hard time getting through on the phone to even make an appointment. When I finally do, they not only don’t follow through with what they said, but nor do they even have a record of my previous call/appointment. Unfortunately, this doesn’t even scratch the surface of challenges within the healthcare system.
  5. No Police Response: Nearly every other weekend (I kid you not) there is an auto accident on at least one of the four corners near my home. I’ve witnessed 5 & was surprised as well as curious when the police didn’t respond to 2 of them. Since I no longer drive, I didn’t think much of it until speaking with the people involved in these accidents, learned they were just as confused and surprised to learn that because there were no serious injuries, the police did not come to the scene. Apparently, this is not news to some, but it was for me and the individuals involved.
  6. Presidential Indictment: Enough said!
  7. Employers/Jobs Lack of Integrity: I’ve found that many companies friends and family members work for are cutting corners and causing unfair as well as illegal work conditions. The head guys are basically looking out for themselves. Customer service is at an all-time low and a lot of it is due to the good workers feeling trapped. Fear of retaliation or being fired all together so instead of speaking up, they conform. I heard of employees being retaliated against for utilizing sick time which is a legal right. Employers not following through with Workmans comp claims and so on, which then turns into a bigger issue, especially for those already dealing with mental health issues or other challenges in general. To go through the necessary legal steps for justice is stressful alone and sadly, some give up therefore the employer continues with the same behaviors.

My list goes on, but I’ll stop here for now. Although I strongly feel there are certain professionals that should be held to a much higher standard of integrity, they are still human. Is it fair, not at all, but what can we actually do? For me, even though most days it is extremely hard for myself and to see others suffering, I have to dig deep to find the good or at the very least something positive to focus on. I look for opportunities to encourage others and help lift them up as we have a better chance when we can work together. This, while being consistent with prayer and doing my best to NEVER GIVE UP HOPE & STAY STRONG IN MY FAITH during my time in this bottomsizedupus world we live in. God Bless!!

Published by 5thgenerationgirl

Tammy Wynette is a mother of three and a “G-MA” (grandma). Born in Warren, Arkansas, she currently resides in Sacramento, CA and is pursuing an AA degree in English at American River College, with plans to transfer to California State University, Sacramento (Sac State). She is an active leader and role model in her community, she works with teens sharing and teaching poetry, as well as providing insight for young parents to prosper. She has certificate from NAMI (The National Alliance on Mental Illness) and is a trailblazer & Griot, keeper of stories/traditions passed down from her ancestors. As an Author and motivational speaker it’d be an honor to present at your events to inspire, encourage & let our VOICES be heard! She has short stories and poems published in Our Black Mothers Brave, Bold and Beautiful!

20 thoughts on “Bottomsizedupus

  1. Great word and very timely and comprehensive post. Stay positive. You can’t change it all yourself. I know that if I dwell too much on all the problems out there, I begin to feel hopeless. I hope you are not feeling hopeless.

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  2. It’s nice to hear these personal stories about your family again, Tammy!
    And I hear you on the state of the world. With no offense intended to you and your fellow Americans, but the US sounds like a mess. The poverty, crime and climate issues are so hard to read from up here in Canada and the political infighting feels so toxic and the leaders are focusing on petty issues and prioritizing getting votes rather than permanent action and change.
    And I’m not naive to think we’re immune from these same issues up here. Things really need to change! 💕🙏

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    1. No offense taken at all my friend. What bothers me most is when it comes to those who for whatever reason think they don’t have it in them to fight through necessary channels, or even where to start & often give up & feel hopeless. Many of whom are hardworking simply trying to stay above water.

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  3. I agree, TW. Times were hard before 2020, and things just devolved from there. Also, I had no idea that the police only come if there are serious injuries. That’s not the case here in Florida, at all! In fact, the police, ambulance, and firefighters all show up just in case.

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  4. That is adorable about your mother. I feel attached to her in a way due to my dad being self-taught, reading a collegiate dictionary regularly, and with his minimal amount of social experience due to hours of overtime & no time made for friends, he said pronunciations in a way untypical, such as adults with a long a sound, and advertisements with a short i and s sound rather than a z sound. All this became more precious upon his departure.
    Your posts always touch or scrub my heart for one reason or another.

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    1. It’s funny how as a kid I used to think it was just my mother. I thought mothers knew everything & I’d actually argue with my teachers by saying “my mom said..” only to find out letter my mom was pronouncing words wrong all along. It feels good now to look back & embrace those memories as a part of our story.
      Thanks for sharing, you have know idea how much it helps me in knowing I’m not alone. Much of what I share is for the first time out loud .

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      1. That paints a truly cute picture. I know it wasn’t great for you at the time, but still, I’m thinking I want to hug tiny, defiant you. : ) Well then, glad to help, I thought my dad was the only one in relatively recent history. Reading this was a pleasure.

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